Let’s Talk About Self Love!
For this week’s blog posting I thought we could get a little personal and talk about something I’m currently working on, which is having true self-love. Recently I was having lunch with some friends and the question “what/who do you love?” came up. Immediately we all starting listing things/people we love. Moms, Dads, and, siblings were mentioned. While others at the table talked about friends and materialistic things such as make-up or their car. Eventually the person who initiated the questioned said “ya’ll do realize nobody said their self, right?”
The table became very quite before it erupted with everyone saying their own version of “of course I love myself!” This moment made me wonder why does admitting to or having self-love seem be an afterthought? Also, why do so many of us struggle with genuinely loving who we are (whoever that may be) in this exact moment. It’s so easy to have conditional love for yourself. You’ll love yourself once you lose that extra 10 lbs, finally pull your GPA up, or purchase your dream car. We know how to have unconditional love for everyone, except ourselves.
After this conversation with my friends, I realized that it was time I started the journey of loving myself no matter what! Please keep in mind that I’m not a professorial therapist of any magnitude, but here are some things that are helping me out on my journey to self-love.
Comparison is something we ALL do and thanks to social media, it’s becoming more of the norm. It’s very easy to find yourself scrolling down Instagram and wish that you looked like the people on your feed. Or maybe your comparison is less physical and more materialistic and as you scroll you find yourself wishing you had the lifestyle of the celebrities you follow. Whatever your poison may be, comparing yourself or your life to that of someone else is very unhealthy. Remember that people only post their highlights and you’re comparing your everything to their best moments. Also, it’s important to love yourself for who you are and where you currently stand. There’s nothing wrong with desiring more, but don’t hold out on self-love while you’re on the journey to reaching your goals.
Tell Yourself “I Love You”:
As crazy as it might sound , it’s important to verbally tell yourself “I love you”. Words carry such strong meaning and power. Telling yourself those three simple words will begin the process of making sure you feel loved by yourself. At first it will feel a bit strange and you might not even believe what you’re hearing. However, as time goes on you will find yourself more comfortable with verbally expressing the love you have for yourself!
When exercising for self-love it’s less about weight lose and more about feeling good about yourself. Numerous studies have shown that there is a direct relation between staying physically active and having high self-esteem. Your workout does not have to be running on the treadmill every day if that’s not what you want to do. We are lucky to live in a world that offers a vast variety of physical activities. You can try Yoga, palates, Zumba dancing, or even kickboxing. What’s important is that you find an activity that you truly enjoy and makes you feel good about yourself.
When it comes to self-love it’s crucial you practice self-care as well! Self-care is a major key because you tend to care for the things you love and love the things you care about. Self-care is any and all steps you take to ensure you are the best you, you can possibly be. Eating healthy foods, avoiding bad sleeping patterns, and self hygiene are all aspects of self-care. Another very important part of self-care is your mental state. It’s okay to take a “me day” or a “me moment” if you find yourself feeling stressed, depressed, or overwhelmed. Sometimes you may find that you need to speak with a therapist to help you with your mental state and that’s perfectly normal and okay as well! When it comes to self-care remember that just like the family and friends you care about, you matter too! Taking care of yourself is major factor in loving who you are.
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Twila-Amoure McDaniel is a college student who is majoring in both communications and film studies. When she isn't in class she is more than likely somewhere making videos for her YouTube channel. Her passions include writing, art, and film-making and she currently has plans on going into the film industry. Twila-Amoure does have crohn's disease, however she is very determined not to allow that to stop her from achieving all of her goals in life. Be sure to follow her on all on her social media platforms @TwilaAmoure and feel free to browse through Campus Lately for more of her work.