How To Heal After Your First Breakup

It could happen during your teenage years or when you’ve blossomed into a full on adult. You know that person that you fell madly in love with and you just knew you guys were going all the way. Then all of a sudden something goes wrong and things end abruptly with no warning. You had high hopes of the two of you working things out, but you just couldn’t seem to get on the same page. Then the pain starts and you’re wondering why you’re not acting like your normal self and you want to be alone. That pain is called heartbreak and everyone is going to experience it at some point in their life. The question is are you going to let it get you down or are you going to overcome.

Getting over your first heartbreak could take weeks, months or maybe even years. There is no time limit on healing and everybody heals at their own pace, but there are better ways to deal with the pain.

Step 1:

When trying to heal after a break up the first thing you want to do is take time, to analyze what happen. Not to sulk in the problem or think what could you have done differently, but really just to get an understanding of what happened? It’s okay to cry and just let the tears flow. Grieving is for the better.

Step 2:

Get closure. I promise you depending on how the breakup left you two closure is most definitely the thing that holds people back from moving forward. Don’t feel like you’re going to be nagging the person or they’re not going to want to talk to you. Closure, is needed and a simple conversation over coffee might make all the difference in the world.

If closure, is just not an option for you start writing down your feelings. Almost like an open letter to the person that hurt you and tell them everything that’s on your mind. After you can rip up the letter and dispose of it or you can mail it to your ex if that’s what you need to do to feel closure. Getting a response doesn’t matter because you got what you needed off of your chest.

Step 3:

Enjoy yourself, splurge a little and take a pamper day. Also, get a hobby or take up a new interest that allows you to stay busy, so you don’t have time to think about the breakup. Hang out with your friends and limit the talk about relationships or significant others.

Step 4:

Get back to you, living for you and making yourself happy. Focus on how to be a better you within life, your career and just as a person. You’ll be ready to jump back in the dating pool in no time.

Miranda Brown39 Posts

My name is Miranda Brown. I am a proud Alumna of Tennessee State University class of 2016. I am from Franklin, TN a small town right outside of Nashville. I am very much so an introvert, but I do tend to sometimes come out of my shell as I'm known as the extra-dramatic friend. I love writing and blogging even more. My favorite quote is, "reality is wrong. dreams are real" - Tupac. I'm all about being positive and spreading good vibes.


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